Dear Abby: I found these photos of his proposal to another woman

DEAR ABBY My husband sought me to go into his email inbox and settle an issue with an airline An email popped up your memories from eight years ago from a photo website Related Articles Dear Abby She wants to dress my little girl in sequins and leopard print Dear Abby I checked her story about a celebrity classmate and proved she was lying Dear Abby I heard my father-in-law sneak a woman into the basement Dear Abby I realize now why the others refused to go on my sister s outings Dear Abby Please tell people that there s no friendship after divorce We have been together eight years and I thought I would see photos of us They weren t They were photos of him with his ex-fiancee including his elaborate proposal The proposal was something out of a dream He proposed to me on our family room couch I also realized her ring is exactly like mine I m so hurt He has never been that romantic with me or put much thought into my gifts Truly one year he gave me bed sheets for Christmas which I never requested Meanwhile I m the one who puts effort into his family s cards and gifts and helps them with celebrations My birthday was this month I m eight months pregnant and I had to pick out and buy my own birthday gift because he noted he didn t know what to get me When I let him know how hurt I feel about everything he noted Let me just go back in time and walked away I feel hurt stuck and unloved Am I overreacting CRUSHED IN NEW JERSEY DEAR CRUSHED I understand your disappointment but my advice is to revisit this subject after your child is born and you have had more time to think about it I don t know what happened with your husband s prior relationship but if it had been terrific it would have lasted Not all men are good at planning proposals or choosing cards and gifts but often they make up for it in other options Bide your time DEAR ABBY My dear friend Sandra is married with two children She and her husband have a -year-old son together and another son from her husband s first marriage who is The -year-old s life is tough much like Cinderella s Sandra treats him very badly She has him doing all of the housework in their home belittles him constantly and is very vocal about how much she dislikes him Her -year-old can do no wrong The older boy s mother has weekends with her son but Sandra is open about not liking her either I feel bad about how the boy is treated and want to talk to Sandra about it but I don t know how to bring up the sensitive subject and maintain my relationship with the family Her husband is utterly on Sandra s side so he does nothing to help the boy have a better life Can you offer any advice FEELING FOR HIM IN WASHINGTON DEAR FEELING Somebody has to intervene for that boy Related Articles Asking Eric I was just rubbing my son s head and my husband got weirded out Harriette Cole I want our vacation to be G-rated and my son s girlfriend is not Miss Manners My wife s habit makes me cringe After all these years should I say something Dear Abby She wants to dress my little girl in sequins and leopard print Asking Eric The party was in the yard but this one guest wouldn t leave my house Why does his uncaring father have custody Could he stay with his mother full time Are there any other relatives who could take him in And why would you want a relationship with a heartless couple who are so emotionally abusive Because you apparently are the only person who cares at all about that boy do a little research about manageable alternative situations for him However if there are none contact child protective services as a last resort You won t save your friendship with Sandra but you may save that child Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA