Dear Abby: She won’t cut ties with her ex because she loves his dog

DEAR ABBY My friend Julie has faced challenges in up-to-date months She lost her job and her long-term boyfriend ended their relationship Related Articles Dear Abby It s going to be awkward to tell him he can t sit there Dear Abby She s refusing to have a gorgeous wedding like her bridezilla sister s Dear Abby We thought we were talking privately but it was caught on her doorbell video Dear Abby Is it wrong of me to be stashing away money so I can leave Dear Abby Do I have to change my eating habits when I m in constituents Her situation is complicated by the fact that the ex has a dog that Julie has known since it was a puppy Despite the emotional and mental abuse he has inflicted on her she s willing to visit him to see the dog My husband and I along with her family have voiced our concerns that he s manipulating Julie by leveraging her affection for the dog I advised her to sever ties and move on because I believe this arrangement is holding her back from moving forward Of late Julie shared that her ex is planning to relocate and take the dog with him which has added to her heartbreak She s often in tears over this situation and I am at a loss about how to endorsement her Do you have any suggestions FRUSTRATED FRIEND IN CALIFORNIA DEAR FRIEND Julie is still mourning the loss of her abusive relationship with her boyfriend As you stated the visits with the dog and him have only prolonged her grief Continue to emotionally backing your friend as you have been doing and skip the lectures about what a manipulative cad he is She already knows Then pray he moves away soon so the tie can ultimately be severed and she can start healing DEAR ABBY I m in my early s and have been working hard since my mid- s I have a nice house that my wife and I are trying to pay off and two kids We live pretty comfortably but by no means are we well off My dad is very well off and he finances my older brother to live abroad My younger sister who still lives at home with him is given whatever money she demands or wants I am growing increasingly resentful about this situation My two siblings neither of whom work are getting free rides from Dad My father loves to remind me how much money he has and how fruitful he is So why doesn t he help me pay down my mortgage so my family and I can live a more content life This is the question that is nagging at me but I m not sure whether to ask my dad or not Do you have any advice about the direction I should take and what I can do so I don t feel so much resentment ONE OF THREE IN CANADA Related Articles Asking Eric I m past and my biological clock is ticking What s my next step Harriette Cole Is this how an entry-level job is supposed to feel Miss Manners His driving was terrifying He responded poorly when I demanded him to slow down Dear Abby It s going to be awkward to tell him he can t sit there Asking Eric Why did nobody stop the high-strung sister from stealing the valuables DEAR ONE Perhaps it s time to step back and view this situation from a different perspective You seem to think your father is doing your sister and brother a favor by subsidizing their lifestyles From where I sit it looks more like he has spent years fostering their dependence on him rather than helping them to become independent adults Has it never occurred to you that of the three siblings you are the only one who is fully functional Your father may be under the impression that you can comfortably pay your mortgage off by yourself Stop fuming and have an honest talk with him Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA